The term, codependency,
first appeared in the 1970's to describe those of us in relationships with
people using drugs/alcohol. Mental health professionals recognized that
codependent people had developed a specific way of coping which actually kept
them stuck in their relationships, despite destructive thoughts/ feelings,
overwhelming dissatisfaction in the relationship, and resentment toward another
person. Today, the term codependency is used to describe a broader range of
individuals and circumstances.
** Some signs of codependency:- preoccupation with pleasing others
- taking on relationships with 'needy' individuals
- obsessive worry about other people
- consistent need for others' approval
- trying to control people and situations
- fear of other people's anger as well as one's own
- difficulty asserting oneself
- fear of making mistakes
- never feeling good enough
Some situations which can cause codependent behaviors:
- being a caretaker for one's siblings
- being in a relationship with someone who struggles with
mental illness
- being in a relationship with someone who uses
drugs/alcohol
- experiencing neglect and/or abuse as a child
- witnessing neglect and/or abuse as a child
** This is a partial list and can include many other
signs/symptoms. For a complete description, read the book, “Codependent No
More” by Melody Beattie.
Help is out there. We can maintain hopeful and loving
relationships and begin to live a more satisfying life.
In the next chapter, we will identify how the
therapy process specifically addresses codependency.
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