Practicing Self-Care-Part 2- Emotional Needs

Now that we have explored ways to take care of our physical in the previous chapter, we need to look at how to nurture our emotional selves- essentially, how to adopt practices that help us feel good about who we are.  When we feel truly satisfied with who we are, we are much better able to let go of stress. 

It is helpful to consider the following:

Connection to others- It is important to understand that as humans, we are ‘wired’ to connect to other people, however, we need to ensure that these connections inspire and energize us rather than discourage and emotionally drain us.  For those of us who tend to isolate and emotionally withdraw when we are stressed or in crisis, it is even more important to reach out to others. We can create different types of connections depending upon our needs. In one instance we may need someone to have fun with and share laughs or an activity and in another, we may need someone to share our deepest thoughts/feelings. 

Release of Emotions- Holding our feelings inside can result in symptoms such as physical aches/pains, sleeplessness, and difficulty concentrating. Feelings are, essentially, energy.  We cannot simply ‘turn them off’ when we choose by ignoring them or pretending we don’t feel anything.  The energy will often come out in others ways that interfere with our functioning. 

Some ways to release our feelings are:

• Journaling in a notebook or on the computer

• Getting physical by punching a pillow or punching bag, dancing, singing

• Allowing ourselves the opportunity to cry without restrictions

• Engaging in an artistic activity like drawing, painting, or sculpting with clay or play-doh

Since the purpose of these activities is to express a specific feeling, like anger, fear, or sadness, it is necessary to focus on the process of the activity rather than the result.  This means we do not have to be ‘good’ at the activity, just be willing to put our energy into it.

Personal Interests/Hobbies- These activities can help us to stay in the present moment and to focus the mind.   It can be difficult for some of us to let go of problems or conflicts. We may tend to think about them repeatedly, using up precious energy, which could be put to better use. The intent behind these activities is not to express feelings, although it is okay if one does, but simply to be present.

In the next chapter, we will explore the nature of spirituality and how to nurture that side of ourselves.

Feel free to share the ways in which you are able to take care of your emotional self by posting a comment below.