Utilizing An Emotional Diet- Part 1- Social Time

An essential part of our emotional diet involves the ways in which we connect to other people.  We are all social beings to some degree so that the ‘right’ amount of time spent socializing varies depending upon each individual person.  It is important, however, for all of us to include some amount of social time from week to week. 

How Do We Connect?

Many of us utilize social media such as Facebook and email to connect with others.  This can help us to remain up- to- date on what is happening in other people’s lives and to offer current information about our own happenings, however, we need to be careful not to replace face-to face encounters with technology.  As human beings, we are comprised of energy.  When we connect with someone while in that person’s presence, we are exchanging energy.  Sometimes, the connection is emotionally draining and we give out more energy than we receive.  Other times, a wonderful flow of energy occurs between people.  As energy is exchanged, we might feel ‘energized’ and inspired by the connection rather than depleted.  It is important to seek out and maintain these types of connections on a regular basis.

What Kinds of Connections?

Relationships can serve various purposes within our neighborhood, at work, or at school, however, we need to ensure that at least one of our connections centers on emotions.   As part of our emotional diet,  sharing our innermost thoughts and feelings with another person on a regular basis is essential. This person can function as a witness to our emotional struggles, help us to ‘contain’ overwhelming feelings, share similar struggles, and offer an alternative perspective on a troubling circumstance. When we are able to verbalize our feelings to another person, we often feel less confused and more in control of our inner world.  We are then less likely to act out in impulsive and unhealthy ways which enable us to avoid or distract ourselves from our true emotions.

The key to any diet, including an emotional one, is habit. 

When we incorporate healthy elements into our routine we will receive long- lasting benefits and be better prepared for the ups and downs that accompany us on life’s journey.

In the next chapter, we will explore the importance of ‘me’ time in our emotional diet.